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The thing is you sound is that if for example I did help you from your attitude, I would be scorned for it, and it puts genuinely nice people off from helping someone because they may over thinking things because they are worried not about giving aid they are starting to overthink the situation and less likely to do something beneficial.
You wouldn't be - i'm very polite.
Seriously though, i didn't mean to put off people trying to help other people out, i realise it sounds that way. What you did sounds like a good thing to have done. What i was thinking of isn't an actual situation where someone else can come in and actually help by doing something, but is the more common (much more common to me, and i'm glad of that) thing where there is no situation beyond the insult /brief incident. Does that make sense? So when you then get someone trying to 'defend' you it isn't actually helping you (some would argue catching up and having a go might help the next person), and usually they are just talking about it anyway, like if you tell them about it when you get home. etc.
I fully support trying to help people, any gender, you see in trouble by themselves. I've done it and it wasn't what i was thinking of... just letting my grump confuse things i guess.
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More of a data point than anything; can't remember the last time i was harassed on the bike, but i may be a little immune to it. Certainly no more than once every couple of months, which is probably less than most men on here. Maybe because i'm quite big on a bike, i ride kind of medium-assertive, definitely not aggressive but not in the gutter, and i'm pretty chilled out, i hang back a lot and if i get a funny vibe from a junction i just get off and walk.
I remember i got more abuse several years back (maybe once or twice a month), but now i'm older, and i dress down (ie. nothing figure-hugging, no skin). Unfortunately that crap probably has an effect. And i usually wear high vis - makes you less 'attractive' somehow. Most common seemed to be people at bus stops yelling "Chinky!" at me as i cycled past - racial not sexual. From cars/vans some racial stuff, some sexual/racial (i'm sure you can imagine the typical). I honestly don't think i've ever had references to my saddle... A couple of times a van has found it 'amusing' to force me into the kerb on a left bend, no idea if that has anything to do with gender.
I never respond other than giving them the evil eye. Maybe i should, but i can easily shake it off most of the time and get on with my day, whereas it would make me very flustered to respond. Also sometimes they are just trying to wind you up / need a bit of attention etc. and i'd rather not.
Here's where it's going to go a bit awry as i'll say something wrong i know... but to the nice men who are wondering how the nasty men think the 'chat-up lines' are supposed to work? They don't. It's to assert dominance, to intimidate others in a low-risk way, that's all. Sometimes they just want to scare you, and women are the target. Also, i don't know if it's just me - but i really get bothered by 'nice men' who want to defend me. Your chivalry is misplaced. I know people on here are properly genuinely angry about abuse their partners and friends have received, but they might not (i'm not them so i don't know) really appreciate you taking to a d-lock to the perpetrator's face. Or even talking about it. I can't quite articulate why i get this rage when someone tries to stand up for me - maybe it's to do with it just being part of 'women are weak and need defending' thing, maybe it's because this crap happens all the time and is part of a pervasive .. something to do with how we live, and men don't often realise that and then get really worked up about something that happens. I don't know. I know there are women who can and will defend themselves, all power to them. That doesn't make me angry (although i'm not keen on a violence on stupidity solution). I'll stop now.
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Rotherhithe's probably safer in heavy traffic - it's generally going at bike speed. And there's a pavement to cycle on.
the fumes! the fumes!
plus it's all warm and wierd.cycling on the pavement there is disconcerting - those (electricity?emergency?) boxes sticking out of the wall i always feel like i'm gonna hit my head on one, even though they obviously aren't that close.
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A few times I've called out at people in the road in London, who make absolutely no movement, only to realise they're foreign and this don't respond so readily to LOOK OUT! One time a french kid actually stepped backwards further into the road just as i was going round him, luckily i'd slowed down.
I think i need to practice me shouting. I feel too embarrassed to do it properly... it's more like "erm, AHEM. 'scuse me. sorry."
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^ yup - live south. if you want to go out in Shoreditch or wherever, it's not far to cycle from Bermondsey/Surrey Quays (it's legal to cycle in the Rotherhithe tunnel... but best not in heavy traffic - safer/quicker to go via LB), and you'll still be close to the East London line if you can't be bothered to cycle to college or east. Proper south-east will get you cheaper/bigger rooms and hills.
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This thread's been quiet for a while? After years of shopping around various shops/labs I've settled on Darkside off Old Street http://www.darksidephoto.co.uk/ I don't know if they're super fantastic quality, but I just like going there and giving them my money. They're not snobby.
For a short while Acrom were nice too, they're a German outfit I think that set up shop in West London somewhere (too far out - I didn't like going) but it didn't last.
ETA: My experience on the others YMMV
Jessops 7 day /massive Kodak regional lab: got progressively worse, mad scratching.
Snappy Snaps: franchise, so prices and quality of service varies, but the London Bridge branch had poor attitude, cut across frames and refused to apologise, then wouldn't reprint a bunch of prints that had red stripes running through them - from varying film types so not a film batch issue like they claimed but probably a pixel out on their precious printer.
Metro: Good quality, not bad price with a student discount, but hate the way they look at you like something they just stepped in. Also, not so much student discount these days i believe.
Acrom: German, lovely service. Closed.
Rapid Eye: ... can't remember. Think i only used them once or twice but if it was anything disastrous i would remember.
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DIY pinhole 6x9, printed at Photofusion