I do none of these things either. I mostly ride gravel on mine.
120mm front, 100mm back with full lockout.
Before I bought it I tried Spur, Oiz TR, Top Fuel, and Lux. All had the same issues: flexed AF, extremely low stack, and stupid shallow seat tube angles (seat behind rear axle at full extension in size XL). I find that the more traditional XCish bikes don't scale up very well across sizes.