Sounds intense! Sorry to hear you had a breakdown, but good you’re recovering and have family support. As someone who also kind of quit their primary industry and is immeasurably happier for it, I hope you’re able to take things at a healthy pace and find something you really enjoy. What’s your background?
I'm with Eseman! Breakdown's can feel very damaging but if you consider your two positions, one of being in a job you hated (past) and one of being unemployed with an open mind (present), your current position is a big step closer towards having a job you find fulfilling. This is the position you need to be in to make the next step. I'd ask yourself "what job characteristics do I tend to enjoy?" and see where that leads.
Thanks. Finance/Compliance/Logistics. Shudder. I am fortunate in that my wife is able to keep the household ticking over financially. Having the kids home this last year has also been a blessing for me too. I've been driving around food parcels one day a week for the last 6 months or so and doing a lot of DIY! Onwards and upwards....
Restructure at work has left me without a role in the first phase (management) of consultation and so I'm now rolled into phase two (non management) in which I'm highly likely to get one of the roles seeing as those roles were my old role prior to becoming management.
I could try for voluntary redundancy which would be a nice wedge and it will be a nice break off point to go move to Sweden like we have been wanting to do for a while but I have no idea what I want to do going forward.
The other half has said she will back me if I wanted to go back to uni to study or if I wanted to start my own business. But I didn't do very well with uni when I went in my early 20s and I've never really been the entrepreneurial type so not sure what I would do.
I'm a bit lost to be honest. I'd quite happily move to Sweden and do something completely different. I just don't know what and also I've finally for the first time gotten used to actually not living paycheck to paycheck as I did for the first 35 years of my life and now have a little money behind me. I don't want to go backwards in terms of job or ability to afford things.
Let me know if I can help with anything Sweden related, more than happy to chat moving here (back home for us), places to live and work.
The difference between you at 20 and you now will be pretty significant. You might find Uni suits you better at this age.
Also, 2 years ago I went back for a Masters in my late 40s. Even though I am about to start a new role to further my new career, I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up. Learning is not a "one and done" thing. It's finding new things that interest you.
Perhaps taking the money and then taking some time out to just work it out may be your best option.
I'm starting a full time master's in health data sciences at lshtm September. I'll turn 40 during the course.
Always take the money, having been made redundant twice, latest happening last month, it’s a lump sum of money that you'll probably never have a chance to get in your hands unless you win the lottery.
If you’re not satisfied with the job, or the people you work with, don’t feel the need to just hang on in there for the sake of a pay packet.
Having the money frees you up to do other things, whatever they are.
Thanks, if it happens I may well take you up on that.
Thats the thing, I fairly enjoy the work and the people and the firm overall is good to work for. I just got bested by 4 people with more management experience, (I only stepped into management in June last year). Its just fairly frustrating to be bumped backwards into non management and putting the career back a year or so. Any future management opportunities will come along less frequently and come when I am part of a bigger team with more people also wanting those roles.
Its been a weekend of much reflection and I have got a lot done round the house as an attempt at distraction. I even managed to not think about it for a whole hour today.
I will wait and see what the next meeting brings, cant make any choices yet.
it's great to hear your stories. generous. sharing is caring.
im nearly 40. I don't hang too much on the term 'professional'. i try to make work which is honest and effortful and high quality. i want to leave the world in a better state than i found it through my work. ambitious perhaps the world is wrecked by greed, mistakes and conflict but we can all make some positive changes which help.
I started in community bike shops in Oxford, London and Holland. Loved it; the fixing, building, social aspects and skill-sharing.
Now working in craft stonework (dry stone walling) and landscaping in North East Scotland. I hope to share this work/skill more as I did with bikes. (see my most basic of basic webpages: https://schoolofstone747436741.wordpress.com/ )
keeping learning (beginners mind) and pressing against the edges of my comfort zone works for me. immersive creative work is often it's own reward and enough money is the by product. working with nature is powerful. i never got on with I.T. and don't get me started on A.I. or the rise of the robots.
volunteer in areas which interest you; will lead to friendship and other opportunities. i help with https://www.aberdeenshiretrail.org/ just now which combines my interests and work nicely.
not every day or week works especially when I try and draw comparisons, look for recognition/praise or just have worn out back/joints. but cycling is still such therapy (dodging trees rather than traffic now mostly).
as in cycling and dry stone walling, in life i try to find and maintain balance whilst having fun, looking after myself and others and pulling off the occasional trick.
good luck and be kind (to yourself 1st).
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